Organ and tissue donation is a positive subject, the subject of life and love. This guide is designed to help you encourage and lead a donation discussion with your family. Although some members of your family may be afraid to talk about donation, you may be able to help them overcome their fear and discuss the topic openly.
Bring up the subject in conversation and, if they seem interested, go on as long as the discussion continues. You may have to mention the subject a time or two before your family becomes used to the idea.
Set a time for the discussion and ask each family member to think about their feelings and answer a few questions beforehand. These comments and questions can be used to break the ice and begin discussion.
Discuss the topic in relation to current events, like a news story, the death of a celebrity, or someone the family knew. It may be less difficult for members of your family to discuss donation in relation to an event or a story.
What to Expect
During the discussion, you should be prepared for a variety of reactions. It is quite possible that someone will become upset or anxious during the discussion.
If someone becomes upset, remain calm and find out gently why the person is distressed. Remember the “positive approach” and try to point out that the conversation is really about giving life to other human beings. If this positive approach does not work, respect the person’s wishes to leave the room or to end the conversation. Perhaps he or she will be able to discuss the subject at another time, or in a one-on-one, rather than a family, setting.
Another possible reaction to the subject of organ and tissue donation is humor. You may find that someone in the family will begin to make jokes in order to deal with their own anxiety about the issue. Attempting to lighten the mood with humor is a normal reaction. Do not overreact to the jokes by making the person feel uncomfortable. If you continue on a serious note, the rest of the family will follow your lead.